Ask yourself: Without
discipline,
- can a captain run a ship effectively?
- can an athlete win a game?
- can a violinist play well at a concert?
The
answer is, "Of course not." Why then do we question today, in matters
of personal conduct, or to achieve any standard, if discipline is necessary? It
is absolutely necessary.
Today the philosophy is: "If it
feels good, do it." I have heard parents innocently saying, "I don't
care what my kids do so long as it makes them happy. That is all that
matters." I ask them, "Wouldn't you want to know what makes them
happy?" If beating people up on the streets and taking their things away
are what make them happy, there is a word in the English language for them, it
is called "perversion." How and where we derive our happiness from is
just as important as the happiness itself. It is a result of our values,
discipline and responsibility. We keep hearing "do what you like."
The reverse is just as true. Like what you do. Many times we need to do what
ought to be done whether we like it or not.
A mother comes home after a long
day's work, takes care of the household chores, looks after the baby and goes
to sleep exhausted. In the middle of the night the baby cries. Does mama feel
like getting up? No, but she gets up anyway. Why? For three reasons:
- Love
- Duty
- Responsibility
We
cannot live our lives by emotions alone. We need to add discipline, no matter
what age we are. Winning in life comes when we do not succumb to what we want
to do but do what ought to be done. That requires discipline.
Labeling and
Put-Downs By Parents, Teachers and Supervisors
Have you heard some parents
playfully or affectionately calling their kids "dummy" and "stupid"?
Labels stick for life. When the kids grow up they will be sure to prove the
parents right. Labels do not only stick for life but for generations. The caste
system in India is a prime example of how labeling can hurt. Upper caste or
lower caste, "If it is not a label, what is it?"
Common put-downs
parents say to their kids are:
- You are dumb.
- You never do anything right.
- You will never amount to anything.
Teaching
the Right Values
Many times, inadvertently and innocently, we end up teaching
wrong values within our families and organizations. For example, we tell our
children or staff to lie for us.
- Tell them I am not here.
- The check is in the mail.
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